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mistakes. it's a part of everyone's life, a part of growing up.
when one fails, he can do either of two things: be positive about it and do better next time, or be pessimistic and never get over the fact that he failed. the right attitude, of course, is to just brush it off one's shoulders and strive harder in the future.
yes, it is definitely easier said than done. some people just don't seem to get that we want to get up and make amends. they seem to constantly remind us about our past failures. while the intentions of those people may be good, like so that we might not make the same mistakes again, more often than not, they come across as mean and hurtful, and as if wanting to bring us down more.
how exactly does one react when somebody nags him about the time he failed? saying "it already happened, get over it" would be rude. on the other hand, when one says "i'll do better next time", the other person would say "that's what you always say." it's as if that person doesn't believe that one could actually succeed the next time he tries, or that he's implying that one would not change at all. everyone deserves and should be given another chance, to show what he is capable of. i know that first chances shouldn't be wasted, but i'm sure we all know that things seldom go smoothly, during the first time.
a personal experience comes to mind. i had a low grade on one of my tests. it isn't a red mark, but my mom wants me to always get 90+'s, so i would be "competent" in the honor roll. so..
what she didn't know was that i had more things to say, things that i know i would never have the guts to say to her. for one, i wanted to ask if she doesn't trust me at all. for another, i wanted to ask her if she thought i didn't want to succeed too. did she think i got a low grade on purpose? what kind of a kid does she think i am? it's not fair. i never can voice out my opinions. when i start saying what i think, i get shouted at. i want intelligent productive conversations, not a one way scolding thing.
(whoops, wandered away from the subject. :P)
the point is, by saying what she said, she sounded as if she never even wanted to see if i really did better or if i really am going to improve. but i did.
given the benefit of the doubt and another chance, it is most likely that a person will do better, or change for the better. of course, a few people still prefer to be just as they are, but we all know those kinds of people would never achieve what they want in life. improvement, for me, is the whole point of growing up and living.
what i'm trying to say is, mistakes aren't all bad. sometimes these mistakes and failures help us grow up, and teach us lessons nobody else can. nobody's perfect. parents can teach us, but we learn better when we experience things hands on. (and, parents make mistakes too. don't get me wrong, even if they don't admit it 99.9% of the time, they still deserve our respect and love.)
when one fails, he can do either of two things: be positive about it and do better next time, or be pessimistic and never get over the fact that he failed. the right attitude, of course, is to just brush it off one's shoulders and strive harder in the future.
yes, it is definitely easier said than done. some people just don't seem to get that we want to get up and make amends. they seem to constantly remind us about our past failures. while the intentions of those people may be good, like so that we might not make the same mistakes again, more often than not, they come across as mean and hurtful, and as if wanting to bring us down more.
how exactly does one react when somebody nags him about the time he failed? saying "it already happened, get over it" would be rude. on the other hand, when one says "i'll do better next time", the other person would say "that's what you always say." it's as if that person doesn't believe that one could actually succeed the next time he tries, or that he's implying that one would not change at all. everyone deserves and should be given another chance, to show what he is capable of. i know that first chances shouldn't be wasted, but i'm sure we all know that things seldom go smoothly, during the first time.
a personal experience comes to mind. i had a low grade on one of my tests. it isn't a red mark, but my mom wants me to always get 90+'s, so i would be "competent" in the honor roll. so..
mom: ang baba mo dito ah?
me: alam ko ma. but i promise, i did well in the quiz after that.
mom: yan naman palagi sinasabi mo ah.
me: alam ko ma. but i promise, i did well in the quiz after that.
mom: yan naman palagi sinasabi mo ah.
what she didn't know was that i had more things to say, things that i know i would never have the guts to say to her. for one, i wanted to ask if she doesn't trust me at all. for another, i wanted to ask her if she thought i didn't want to succeed too. did she think i got a low grade on purpose? what kind of a kid does she think i am? it's not fair. i never can voice out my opinions. when i start saying what i think, i get shouted at. i want intelligent productive conversations, not a one way scolding thing.
(whoops, wandered away from the subject. :P)
the point is, by saying what she said, she sounded as if she never even wanted to see if i really did better or if i really am going to improve. but i did.
given the benefit of the doubt and another chance, it is most likely that a person will do better, or change for the better. of course, a few people still prefer to be just as they are, but we all know those kinds of people would never achieve what they want in life. improvement, for me, is the whole point of growing up and living.
what i'm trying to say is, mistakes aren't all bad. sometimes these mistakes and failures help us grow up, and teach us lessons nobody else can. nobody's perfect. parents can teach us, but we learn better when we experience things hands on. (and, parents make mistakes too. don't get me wrong, even if they don't admit it 99.9% of the time, they still deserve our respect and love.)